In response to: “What’s your guys take on butch on butch relationships, fem on fem, flamboyant on flamboyant, and the gay male equivalent of butch on butch? Lastly would you date someone of the your same equivalency? i.e. if your “butch” would you date a butch, etc.”

This is Steph and I would really like to answer this question too! So here it goes:

Honestly, I am a firm believer in being with whoever you fall in love with / are attracted to. If one day you’re attracted to someone who identifies as “butch” go for it! If the next day you’re attracted to someone who is “Femme” go for that too! I personally feel very suffocated when I become stuck within a label or “role” so I try to stay as far away from that as possible because I find myself to fluidly shift between both masculine and feminine. However, if you are someone who self-identifies as “butch” or “femme” or whatever, I don’t think that has to dictate who you are attracted to. I know that there is the saying “opposites attract,” but if you’re gay in the first place that is not necessarily true anymore. Everyone has different preferences and the main thing that I would like to clarify is that the way you present your gender (trans* , butch, femme, androgynous, bigendered, everything in between) has absolutely ZERO bearing on your sexual preference. Those two things are not related at all . Do what you want to do regardless of what a stereotype tells you is acceptable. I am a short haired girl, and all though I always date girls with long hair, I am very very attracted to other girls with short hair who are androgynous also. Phew! That was a long response! I’ll shut up now and stop rambling. I hope that helped a little bit? 

lovelovelovelove,

Steph